The ego is a necessary outer part of the whole self, with an ability to deal with reality as we perceive it. It is the portion of the self that we refer to when we say “I”. We do not want to annihilate the ego we want to reconstruct it, if we find that its anatomy is a limitation when it becomes aroused and we act in ways we dislike, or is detrimental to the results we desire.
It may help one to remember the acronym F.A.C.E., and we can identify if it is a sense of Fear, Attachment, Control, or Entitlement that we are not handling like loving adults. The positive dimensions of the F.A.C.E of the ego should be remembered.
The sense of fear is a tool from an inner portion of our selves that reminds us that we are prudent and cautious. That shows we have an ability to intelligently asses danger. Attachment shows perseverance and commitment to stay through hard times.
Control, that we have the ability to get things done and can be efficient at addressing, processing, and resolving challenges as they arise.
Entitlement, shows we do have a healthy self esteem and can stand up for our rights but with a willingness to accept that things are sometimes unfair.
In fear choose instead to love. When attached, let go. When controlling grant freedom. When entitled see your self as equal.
In contrast to an arrogant ego, and often more detrimental there is the impoverished ego, but perhaps you can do the research on it your selves. It’s amazing what a self esteem builder self education can be.
We do need more people that are successful, just people whose definition of success is teaching, healing, and being kind in a loving manner. Contrary to what some memes may insinuate. We define success each in our own way. Someone with a healthy ego would eventually come to such a conclusion.
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