Appreciating individuality: How to measure the Golden Rule…

It is commonly called the golden rule because if we all appreciate one another with empathy, than we all prosper. It requires that we recognize the differences in one another, walk in their shoes, or see things from their point of view, and allow for their differences.

The Golden Rule

Much of our culture in my humble opinion only respects people who are extroverted, and introverted people are seen as someone to be suspicious of, as they often get burned out by the company of others. Introverts may only know anger as a response to move people away so they can recharge their battery from their rich inner selves. Extroverted people often take their need for absence personally, and bite back.

If the education system focused on healthy communication, as well as the differences in how each; introvert and extrovert needs to experience love in relation to the five A’s of healthy adult relationships (including friendships) than I believe it would be much easier to live by the golden rule. For those unaware the five A’s are Attention, Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, and Allowing (Being allowing of one another’s differences). I also believe that it starts with trust, and telling another our own needs; or just even, hey I have a need that you can’t fulfill right at the moment. It’s not about you, it’s about me.

That would be too selfish, right? Many people don’t even know what their own needs are because they project them onto others so much, their needs become the responsibilities of everyone else. Be you! Real friends will accept you, and allow you to be you!

Reconstructing the arrogant ego…

The ego is a necessary outer part of the whole self, with an ability to deal with reality as we perceive it. It is the portion of the self that we refer to when we say “I”. We do not want to annihilate the ego we want to reconstruct it, if we find that its anatomy is a limitation when it becomes aroused and we act in ways we dislike, or is detrimental to the results we desire.

It may help one to remember the acronym F.A.C.E., and we can identify if it is a sense of Fear, Attachment, Control, or Entitlement that we are not handling like loving adults. The positive dimensions of the F.A.C.E of the ego should be remembered.

The sense of fear is a tool from an inner portion of our selves that reminds us that we are prudent and cautious. That shows we have an ability to intelligently asses danger. Attachment shows perseverance and commitment to stay through hard times.

Control, that we have the ability to get things done and can be efficient at addressing, processing, and resolving challenges as they arise.

Entitlement, shows we do have a healthy self esteem and can stand up for our rights but with a willingness to accept that things are sometimes unfair.

In fear choose instead to love. When attached, let go. When controlling grant freedom. When entitled see your self as equal.

In contrast to an arrogant ego, and often more detrimental there is the impoverished ego, but perhaps you can do the research on it your selves. It’s amazing what a self esteem builder self education can be.

We do need more people that are successful, just people whose definition of success is teaching, healing, and being kind in a loving manner. Contrary to what some memes may insinuate. We define success each in our own way. Someone with a healthy ego would eventually come to such a conclusion.

A case against a victimized mentality…

When we bring up old issues that are haunting us from the past and creating a feeling of fear and insecurity in our present. That opens us up to reliving that moment in our minds, and in that moment we anchored a emotion, or a feeling. Then we project that feeling, vibration, or whatever the fuck title you want to hang on it; into future presents as well as, that present moment we felt the same as when we were traumatized supposedly?

Isn’t that a bit morbid of us to do? Because you could obviously be of a mind to look for ways that those past presents could have lead to grow into your greatest probable potential for the current probable present. Thus projecting your personality’s greatest value into space and time. Giving us exactly the experience we needed all the time.

So yet knowing this consciously doesn’t mean we can always look for the value of the present; instead of looking for the ways things about it are disturbing us. By us I mean as a collective experiment in freedom. In recognition of unity, and not because of it. Unity in sight of the basic fact we all have the same basic needs. Or, at the very least can stop and recognize what your real needs and list 5; then imagine the number of all the people you can conceive of also having a similar need.

You’re not that much different than I am, name and personality different; countenance perhaps. Where does this leave us?